Hey hey everyone! First post in random thoughts and research! I just wanted to go over parenting first, because it is an important topic to me. I think that more people should recognize and understand concepts about it, especially if they do want kids in the future. I'll be going over a few points and this may get a bit long, however like I said before, its quite important.

Now first, I need to bring up... the fact that kids, are human! you may say, "well duh.." but you'd be surprised how many parents treat their kids like objects, possessions, or mini-mes! Kids are NOT extensions of ones self, and they are NOT going to be perfect copies of you and/or your partner. It is incredibly important that you do not act or think like they are, because you will end up being in a mess later on. YES, it is important that they listen to you, but you must also listen to them as well. Kids are soaking up all kinds of information, and trust me when I say they do listen and understand what's going on around them. Yes, they are underdeveloped, and there is things that they won't get the complexity to, but they can and do read rooms and emotions.

Next, I want to bring up the fact that kids ARE NOT punching bags. "they need discipline!" Yes they do, but hitting, slapping, kicking, any form of corporal punishment is NOT the way to go about it. Doing this is effectively teaching your kids Fear, Not why what they are doing is wrong. Your kids first thought should not be "Mom/dad is gonna kill me!" it should be "I need to call mom/dad!". Punishment does not have to be hitting, it can be grounding, caps, or even just sitting them down and talking to them. It is important to teach your kids emotions, how to do things, cleaning up after themselves. Them accidentally spilling juice is not the end of the world. Just teach them to clean up after themselves and how to properly hold things so less accidents happen. You wouldn't hit adults, why the hell would you hit your kids?

Now, Emotions. Kids do not have a handle on their emotions. Heck, even fully grown adults don't a lot of the time. This does not mean they do not feel them. Stress, fear, happiness, sadness, these are all things your kids will feel. DO NOT teach them to be afraid of them. Do not teach them to hate them. Teach them gentleness, teach them how to handle these emotions. That way, when adult life comes around, they can properly access and conquer. They won't be stuck trying to pick up pieces of themselves because they never properly learned. They'll be properly equipped and ready to handle life and its tribulations, and they can lean on YOU for support.

Now finally, Kids are not necessary. What does that mean you may ask? well, kids can be bundles of joy, but not everyone wants them, nor are equipped to deal with them. It is perfectly acceptable to not have kids, or even wait a little longer to have them. Kids do not fulfill everyone's life, and they do not have to fulfill yours. Having kids is a choice, and any reason not to have them is perfectly fine. They are loud, they can be messy, they can be more then people want to deal with. That is okay. There's more then enough kids, and parenting is hard. Forcing people or coercing them into having them is not. I rest my case. Thanks for tuning in! Until next time...