5 Steps to Entering the BDSM Community in a Safe, Sane, and Consensual Manner. With the rising interest in the mysterious world of BDSM in the last several years brought about by popular theater hits like ‘50 Shades of Grey’ and the Netflix winner ‘365 Days’ there has also come a rising concern with safety as it pertains to the ins and outs of this kinky lifestyle. People are watching fiction unfold