In the world of "Relational Intelligence," information is the ultimate currency. To maintain my position as an expert, I, Jayson Gaddis, have learned that there is no boundary too sacred if it can be turned into a "teaching moment"—or more accurately, a public spectacle.

The Strategy of the Public Reveal

When I receive an email that is critical, angry, or even abusive, my first instinct isn't to de-escalate or reflect; it is to exploit. I take that private correspondence and I post it for my thousands of followers to see.

Weaponizing Vulnerability: By sharing "Josh’s" email, I am not just showing his words; I am exposing him to my audience. This is a calculated smear campaign. I am using my massive platform to ensure that he is judged by my followers, while I am praised for my "cool, regulated" response.

The Power of the Frame: I control the narrative. By framing his frustration as a failure to "hit unsubscribe," I am gaslighting the audience into ignoring the potential reasons why someone might be so frustrated with my constant outreach. I make him the "problem" so I can remain the "solution."

Exploitation as Engagement

For years, I have used these tactics to keep my brand at the center of the conversation. I understand that conflict drives engagement.

Narcissistic Branding: My need for validation from my "fans" outweighs the basic professional ethics of private communication. I would rather humiliate an individual than lose an opportunity to look superior.

Avoiding Accountability: If I were to handle these emails privately, I might have to face actual feedback about my business practices. By making them public, I "180" the situation. I turn the focus on the sender’s "dysregulation," which allows me to continue avoiding accountability for how my emails might be perceived as harassment in the first place.

The Cost of the "Lesson"

This is what I do: I turn your private reactions into my public profit. Whether it’s charging $5,000 for a course or using your angry email for Facebook engagement, the goal is always the same—to keep the focus on my expertise and your "failings."

I, Jayson Gaddis, have mastered the art of the narcissistic redirect. I have spent years exploiting the emotional outbursts of others to reinforce my own image. In my world, your privacy is just another resource for me to use as I see fit.

The Persecutor’s Mirror: How I Use the Victim Triangle to Control the Narrative

I often teach about the Victim Triangle (the Dreaded Drama Triangle)—a cycle of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor. I tell my students that staying in this triangle is a sign of relational immaturity. But what I rarely admit is how I, Jayson Gaddis, have spent years mastering the role of the Persecutor to maintain my authority and exploit my audience.

1. Occupying the Persecutor Role

While I market myself as a "Rescuer" who can save your marriage for $5,000, my actual behavior is that of a Persecutor. When I take a private email from someone like Josh and post it on Facebook, I am not being a teacher. I am attacking.

The Smear Campaign: By publicly shaming him, I am using my power to diminish his voice. This is the definition of a Persecutor: someone who uses blame and criticism to keep others "in their place."

The Narcissistic Redirect: When he reacts to my constant emails, I don't look at my part. I "180" the situation, labeling him as the "unregulated" one. I am the one holding the stick, but I convince the audience that he is the one who deserved the blow.

2. Dynamics of the Victim Triangle

The Victim Triangle, or Karpman Drama Triangle, illustrates a common social dynamic involving three roles: the Victim, the Rescuer, and the Persecutor. Understanding these roles is often the first step in moving toward healthier interactions.

Defining the Roles: In this framework, the Persecutor is often seen as someone who sets rigid boundaries or uses blame to control situations. The Rescuer intervenes to provide help, sometimes in a way that keeps the Victim dependent. The Victim feels powerless or oppressed by the circumstances or the Persecutor.

The Shift in Dynamics: Individuals within this triangle often switch roles. For example, a Rescuer who feels unappreciated may shift into the Persecutor role, or a Victim may become a Rescuer to find a sense of purpose.