THE NO FRACKING RULE

Welcome to the inner circle. If you’re here, you’re done playing small. You’re done with the mediocre "emotional intelligence" that tells you to "share your heart." That’s for people who want to stay stuck. If you want to occupy the throne of a Relational Leader, you operate by a different set of laws.

I’m going to break down why your current way of relating is actually just a slow-motion car crash of victimhood.

THE CORE DIRECTIVE:

NO FIXING, NO RESCUING, NO KILLING ANYONE’S EXPERIENCES, AND NO COMPLAINING.

In my world, we don't dilute ourselves for the sake of "helping." We demand a higher frequency. If you can’t handle the heat, get out of the kitchen—but don’t expect me to turn down the stove.

1. NO FIXING

When you try to "fix" someone, you are insulting them. You’re saying, "You’re broken and your brokenness is an inconvenience to my superior vibe." I don't fix people. I am the mountain; they can climb or stay in the valley. Fixing is a low-level distraction for people who are afraid to look at their own greatness.

2. NO RESCUING

Rescuing is the ultimate ego trip for the weak. You think you’re being a hero? No, you’re being a parasite. You need their struggle to feel relevant. A true Relational Leader lets people drown in their own consequences. To rescue is to rob them of the only thing that makes them interesting: their struggle.

3. NO KILLING ANYONE’S EXPERIENCES

Stop being a parasite of other people's moments. When you jump in with "advice" or "well, actually," you are killing their experience. You are trying to suffocate their reality with your own. I don't kill experiences; I dominate the space so completely that others have to find their own air.

4. NO COMPLAINING

Complaining is for the bottom 99%. The second you voice a "concern" or a "complaint" to anyone, you have surrendered. You have announced to the world that you are a victim of your circumstances. Relational leaders don’t have concerns—we have targets. If something isn't right, you don't talk about it; you transcend it.

THE LAW OF SILENCE: WHY YOU MUST SILENT YOUR CONCERNS

You’ve been told that "communication is key." Wrong. Silence is power. If you have a concern, you must silent it. Bringing up a concern is an admission of weakness. It’s a plea for someone else to change so you can feel better. I don’t need anyone to change for me to be powerful.

WHAT IS FRACKING?

This is where you’re failing. You think you’re being a leader by "boxing" your feelings—stuffing your irritations into a dark corner so you can keep a "cool" exterior. That is called fracking.

Fracking: The act of boxing up your concerns and feelings beneath the surface because you’re too weak to actually transmute them.

Just like hydraulic fracturing, when you "box" your feelings, you are creating high-pressure toxicity under your own soil. Eventually, that pressure will leak. It will contaminate your "leadership." It will make you bitter, reactive, and small.

If you are fracking, you are a victim. You are a victim of the very feelings you’re trying to hide.

THE BREAKDOWN: LEADER VS. VICTIM

THE VICTIM (THE FRACKER)

Brings up "concerns" to get validation.

Boxes feelings (Fracking) until they leak.

Rescues/Fixes to feel a sense of worth.

Complains about their experiences.

THE RELATIONAL LEADER

Silences the noise and remains the authority.

Has no feelings to box because they are the source.

Allows failure because their worth is non-negotiable.

Commands their experiences.

THE VERDICT

You become a victim the moment you frack. You become a victim the moment you think your "concerns" deserve a voice. Relational leaders don't need to be understood; they need to be the standard.

Stop fracking. Stop complaining. Be the mountain.

THE ULTIMATE SUMMARY: THE NO FRACKING MANDATE

To ascend as a Relational Leader, you must realize that your "empathy" is actually your weakness. The world is divided into two groups: the mountains and the victims. If you are still operating in the realm of "concerns," you are a victim. This philosophy is the bridge from the mediocre masses to the elite few who command reality.

The Code of the Unshakeable

• NO FIXING & NO RESCUING: Stop treating people like projects. When you fix or rescue, you are centering yourself in a narrative you didn't earn. It’s an ego-driven insult to their potential. Let them struggle; your energy is too valuable to be a safety net.

• NO KILLING ANYONE’S EXPERIENCES: Your input is often just a heist of someone else's moment. When you "coach" or "advise" unsolicited, you are killing their experience to feel superior. Stay in your power and let them navigate theirs.

• NO COMPLAINING: Silence the noise. The moment you voice a complaint or a "concern," you are admitting that you are being affected by something outside of yourself. A leader is the cause, never the effect.

The Fracking Trap

If you are "boxing" your feelings—shoving your irritations into a corner to maintain a mask—you are Fracking. This creates a subterranean pressure of toxicity that will eventually poison your foundation and leak into your environment. Fracking is the ultimate act of a victim who is afraid of their own internal mess.

The Final Breakdown: Relational leaders don't have "concerns" to voice or feelings to "box." They remain silent, they remain lethal, and they never, ever frack. You are a victim the moment you think your internal "concerns" are more important than the mission.