In Western society, and first world countries in general, the concept of scarcity is almost second nature in one way or another. But, with how distracted as a culture we are, scarcity is often subtle. Silent. Going unseen for decades and the impact of it unspoken for generations. Very few have their eyes open long enough to see it's not "anti-social" behavior or "Social anxiety". Some cases, this does apply. Most cases, not so much.
Indeed, there is a different wizard behind the curtain.
The mental health issues previously referenced can occur but are mostly used as an excuse layer to hide lack of effort and childhood trauma, or unhealed scars. Sounding corny or ringing a bell by now? Good. Allow me to continue.
The idea of Scarcity links to childhood trauma, and the future issues this can cause, by something parents miss. Not of their own accord, but of a lack of teaching from their parents. It's something that happens when a child is lacking something they have no idea they need to grow up and function "normally". (This term is used loosely per context)
*Often times normal to one is totally different to another.
It is an early established mindset given from each generation and affects the child into adulthood. The real definitive "Aha!" moment to finding and unearthing one's own scarcity mindset varies with a handful of common factors. For example, a man may find it difficult to so much as approach a woman he finds attractive, even if the goal is to just be friends. That man lives in a scarcity mindset. The reason behind it varies. From is own sense of self-confidence and worth, to any other concept. However, the ladder is often the one getting blamed. When in reality, it could be that he never had the fulfilling sense of loving care provided him by his parents.
Another example would be this; A young girl raised by her father, no mother to speak of. Two drastically different human beings in nature doing the best they can together. The father does what he can to support her through and through. Lady supplies when that time comes, usual fatherly parental advice about growing up and changes yet to be. Odds and ends aren't easy, for either of them. Men may be capable, but we can't do everything. Like make up for the scarcity that child feels from a lack of a motherly figure she can learn from and emanate as years go by.
The idea of scarcity can be easily diluted to mere physical world means. Many believe scarcity means there's often a lack of resources around them. Such as food, clean water, clothing to name a few. That is part of the distraction era of culture we find ourselves in. Especially in Western worlds, like the United States and Europe. In many a way, this is by design. To really be clear I am not about to name names or go all conspiracy analyst.
The very design I speak of is a meticulous and subtle change of narrative and media content that only ever deepens the ties that cement the scarcity mindset within younger and younger generations. One such example of this method is the pushing of the "lone wolf" ideology. With movies and mainstream media at play, this idea has been romanticized. From an outside in perspective, the lone wolf is typically the "Jack of all trades" in portrayal. Able to handle life and death decisions and high stress situations all on their own. Being quiet and reclusive. Twisting silence and scarcity into weapons. Fetishizing the idea of going out into the world, facing hardship, and refusing help of any kind even when the real situation requires aid from other human beings.
It isn't found strictly in the physical, but also in the other four pillars of being. Mental. Emotional. Spiritual. Four pillars of health that compound into one living person. All of which are topics for another time.
If one is lacking, all others feel the impact. If two or more are submerged in the pool of scarcity, the rest will drown with them. Albeit to say everyone who is anyone has grown up with this mindset isn't being fair to those who've realized education, Self-Education, doesn't stop as soon as you walk out of the doors to high school for the last time.
Scarcity is scary. Especially when you first come to see what areas of your life are affected by it. And how it's holding you back or even destroying you slowly. The good news is this mindset isn't permanent. You Can break its chains and you can overcome its tidal waves. AS you do one day you'll look back and laugh at how silly it looks. When you get to that point, remember to pat yourself on the back. Small progress is still progress and as long as you're moving forward in growth and goal setting you're doing alright.
P.S. Asking for help isn't weakness.
It's unspoken strength.