Okay.

I feel like it is NOT that crazy to not want marriage in today's world- in fact I think it's crazier to WANT to promise yourself to one person for the rest of your life. And it's not like I am against grand acts of love like that and overall I used to LOVE the idea of marriage as every young girl plans out their wedding day. I am a HOPELESS romantic (and love is in everything not just people but that's a whole other convo). And I could still see myself one day getting married to somebody but it would be very spontaneous, it would be just us two, an officiant, and maybe a close friend of ours or something, somewhere out of the country on a day unplanned. Perhaps a small gathering with closest family that follows. But I can no longer picture myself just having this big huge idea of a wedding in a white dress with cranky wedding guests and a big fancy wedding venue, IF I am to make a declaration of love it should be that alone not some showcase event for photographed photos and a tall white cake. Maybe that is just my take on it, I'm not too sure.

Honestly overall I think the tradition of promising yourself to one person forever is just silly. Again, I love love but I think there is something about being bound to loving one person for forever and longer that makes me wonder why people are SO for marriage in the first place.

Especially when there are SO many human beings full of love in the world, how you could possibly think you have waited long enough and found somebody exactly perfectly right for you within only the places you have gone is something un-comprehend-able to me. I believe nobody will ever forever be perfectly right for you in that moment like people say in marriage because you and that person along with everyone else in the world are consistently changing into different versions of yourself with every day every decision. And yes, people can change with each other (I am actually a heavy believer in people in your life SHOULD change with you and you should adapt to each other because nobody stays the same forever because life doesn't stay the same) but that also means that maybe there is somebody out there that is exactly right for the you you are now that you have yet to meet because you may be so stuck on evolving with the same person.

Like while I can understand both sides I really just don't think a ceremony and official papers are the way to go; if you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody do it! grow old with them, have kids if you both want and the time is right, go on dates til you're 82 years old, travel with them, live life together experience new things together I just think that the entire concept of "You are not really together and bonded unless you have rings, official government papers, and a ceremony if you choose." is ridiculous in every way.

And then don't even get me started on how so many women are expected to get married to have children, to start a home, the "give away" from a father to a husbands hand in marriage (while I think it is cute to have it be more of a "you're not a little girl anymore go and enjoy your life" I also am not ignorant and can recognize that more often than not it is NOT that kind of "give away"). The expectation that women are supposed to marry young and "start" their lives then based on when they acquire a husband goes against every woman who has ever pushed for equality and women's rights to everything a man could have, want, or do. That also goes to say I do not believe in the standard that men are not whole until they have a wife or someone to take care of them/have children when the time comes.

There is also SO much more to life, to love, to experience, to people than being bound to somebody the rest of your life (even when divorce exists + even if the person you're promised to is a true love).

and with that rant, say goodnight to everyone on planet daphne