Both shame and anger are powerful emotions, and they can begin to control us if we don’t know what to do with them. Whether your anger or shame comes from what was done to you or from something you’ve done, you are still worthy. Shame and anger do not have to run your life. It’s normal to feel these emotions. In fact, God gave us emotions.

Even Jesus experienced anger, sadness, and deep distress. Jesus wept when He lost Lazarus (John 11:35). He felt deep anguish in the garden before the cross (Luke 22:44). And He showed righteous anger when He saw injustice in the temple (Mark 11:15–17).

Many people today feel stuck in their emotions because of past pain, complicated situations, or trauma. But there are ways to begin working through them. One simple thing that can help is slowing your body down. Take a deep breath in for 7 seconds, hold for 7, and breathe out for 7. Remind yourself: “This feeling is temporary. It does not define me.”You can also write down your thoughts and emotions, and gently challenge them—replacing them with something more truthful, grounded, and aligned with what God says about you. This isn’t about pretending everything is okay. It’s about learning how to become steadier and more in control of your life over time.

Another thing that can help is doing something you enjoy or are good at. This can slowly rebuild your confidence. Creating small, consistent routines can also bring a sense of stability when your emotions feel overwhelming. You’re not stuck. You’re learning how to move forward.

References Scripture References:John 11:35; Luke 22:44; Mark 11:15–17; Psalm 34:18